I'm a diamond heiress, my husband found out he was 35 years younger at the altar (2024)

LOVE, diamonds, and a 35-year age gap — Lady Betty Grafstein and Jose Castelo Branco are living the millionaire lifestyle.

With Betty previously having been married to Albert Grafstein, of the Grafstein Diamond Corporation, and José having been previously married as well, the two have blended their family.

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Now situated in the swanky Upper East Side of Manhattan, the spark between the two clearly hasn't dimmed after 27 years of marriage.

Surrounded by finery, from leopard skin rugs to commissioned artwork, each with a unique backstory, the couple exclusively sat down with The U.S. Sun in their luxury apartment - to recount their love story.

SHE'S A LADY

Betty, 95, had her royal title from birth, under the wing of the Windsors.

Escaping the horrors of World War II and coming to the United States at age 18, Betty learned that she was adopted by the Lady in Waiting.

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"I only found out when I came to America in 1947, when I went to get my birth certificate and it said on there that I was adopted, National Adoption Society," she said.

"I didn't want anybody to know because my mother and father were so fantastic to me and I loved them so much, so I never did want to change [my name]," Betty said.

"I never, ever to this day worried about it ever."

BORN TO STAND OUT

The pair are so recognizable for their opulent look, they cannot walk the streets without fans stopping them for a photograph.

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"We are very grateful we have people who really like us," said José, who's nearly 60. "Because I love people."

"I love people as well," Betty chimed in.

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Betty's high profile has led to people speculating her personal life, including net worth.

Many websites circulating the internet cite a billionaire status for the diamond heiress.

"They always exaggerate everything," she said of the rumors, keeping tight-lipped about the actual size of her fortune.

"But I never said anything. So people make things up."

BETWEEN DESTINY AND FATE

Despite the significant age gap, the synchronicity between the two is a testament to their love.

The couple, both interested in fine arts, formally met at a dinner hosted by artist and mutual friend, Júlio Quaresma.

After arriving early to the affair, José and Betty found themselves the only ones seated at the table.

"I came, we started to chat, and we started to have a lot of chemistry right away," he said.

Betty invited José to the 50th anniversary of the United Nations for lunch, which nearly didn't happen due to overbooked hotels in New York City.

The situation was mitigated when Betty made a quick call to a friend — the Sultan of Brunei — who owned a hotel in the city and found a room for José.

"That was the beginning of the end," he said. "Then we started to become very, very close."

After visiting one another between Portugal and the United States, the lovebirds realized their profound connection.

"We became so, so, so close. Until one day, Betty told me: 'We can't be separate anymore,'" José added.

JUST A NUMBER

The age gap between the two was not revealed until they tied the knot in 1996.

"I told her: 'OK, let's be married.' And we got married," José said. "And I just discovered [Betty's] age on the day of the wedding. She never told me her age."

"I never told [him] my age. I didn't remember I didn't tell him, and he said he was in shock when he found out," Betty said, both laughing at the memory.

Betty and José both appear decades younger than their age.

The two praised the help of a glam squad, including makeup artist Alice Pires, hair stylist Tony Motta, plastic surgeon Dr. Ramtin Kassir, and cosmetic dentist Dr. Victoria Rubinoff, for keeping them young.

Both José and Betty said they don't go to the gym, but Betty often does physiotherapy to stay in her best shape.

"I'm pretty faithful to it," she added. "I know all the exercises I have under my chair, all the rubber bands and the weights."

José said the pair focus on beauty from the inside out, using skincare, vitamins, and health foods from Portuguese wellness brand Prozis on a daily basis.

"Betty is a very young spirit," José added.

"She was 87 the first time she told her age publicly.

"We were walking in Park Avenue and there were men doing construction and she had difficulty walking.

"There was an open space for her to pass and the men said: ‘How old are you?’ — it was rude — and she told them: ‘I'm 87.’

"I was in shock, I said: ‘Why did you tell them your age?’ Because I was hiding our age and I was calling myself older to not look so crazy," he added.

Despite acknowledging their age gap, they look at their love story with optimism.

"One of the things I pray for the most, every day, is to have Betty for more years," José said.

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Sometimes, the lovebirds are even mistaken for mother and son, with José recounting when strangers asked if Betty was his mom.

"They asked: 'Is that your mom?' I said: 'Yes,'" José added. "What am I going to say? Are they going to understand? No, so I just say: 'Yes.'"

“You know something, it’s amazing, we walk along the street and people stop us who say: ‘Do you mind if we photograph you?’" Betty chimed in.

"We go to the supermarket, I'm sitting there, and I say [to fans]: ‘You are so kind, you made my day. It made me feel so good.'

"Because you get annoyed when people stop, because it means you look so terrible,” she added, breaking into laughter.

Betty was previously in another age gap marriage with her late ex-husband, who by contrast was nearly 20 years her senior.

"I was married 38 years," she said.

The age difference sometimes comes with issues, ranging from misunderstandings to flat out cruelty from strangers accusing of José of mistreating Betty.

"They say: 'I'm living on her money, I can't wait for her to die.' I get the most and real bullying," José said.

"Oh [it's] terrible," Betty added regarding the cruel comments.

"It makes me feel really furious," José said of haters who say he is using Betty for nefarious purposes.

José, a descendant of European aristocracy from Mozambique, said he takes the criticism from strangers in stride.

“I don't mind if someone is bullying me for my sexuality, this and that, I don't care. I'm very secure with myself.

"Someone told me: ‘I must address you as a she.’ I told him: ‘As you prefer.’ For me, it’s the same.

"‘Oh but you are gay.’ No, I'm not going with men to bed. I know to respect my marriage. Point à la ligne.

"‘Oh, but you look like a woman.’ So what? I love women so much. Women, for me, are the idol of the idols, they’re the muse. And that is my inspiration," he added.

WALK LIKE AN EGYPTIAN

Despite their youthful looks, the two have the life experience that many may never see in several lifetimes.

"I was given an Egyptian head by John Harjes for breakfast one day," Betty said.

"He put it in front of me, and he said: 'Here, Betty, this is for you, this Egyptian head.'

"I still have the papers on it and the pictures of it, it was so beautiful," she added.

In her philanthropic spirit, Betty donated the head from 300 B.C. to the Brooklyn Museum.

"People wanted to buy it and I said: 'No, I don't want to sell it, because I love it so much. It means more to me,' she said.

"And then I gave it to the Brooklyn Museum," she added.

Betty noted a memorable fruit of her generous donation — a child marveling at the artifact.

"I went to the Brooklyn Museum and I see a little boy with his class. The children were standing there with a whole class of children and he was drawing my head in the case," she said.

"I thought it was because I donated it anonymously. And it was so moving to me to see that, such a great moment in my life, to see that little child standing there drawing this Egyptian head," she added.

COLOR, CARAT, CUT, AND CLARITY

Unlike past representations of boozy Y2K-era socialites, Betty has steered clear of the drama.

"You know, I was so correct all my life. You could never point a finger at me anywhere and say a thing regarding a scandal. And I was always proud of that," Betty said.

"Except me," José added, both of them breaking into laughter.

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After 27 years of marriage, their passion and servitude for one another has not dimmed, staying true to their vows.

"I'm still happy to have Betty every day next to me, sleeping together," José said.

"I wake up in the middle of the night [for Betty] to go to the bathroom. You know, nothing upsets me," he added.

"He wakes up and says: 'Where are you? Are you all right? Do you need my help?'" Betty said.

"And she always needs my help," José said, both smiling and giggling at one another.

The loving couple gave The U.S. Sun a tour of their bedroom, where their kingsize bed is surrounded by old photographs of family and fond memories.

HEAD OVER HEELS

For a short period, in 1985, José went by Tatiana Valeska Romanov.

"Tatiana survived for a very short time, two or three years. No more. Then I met my first wife and I discovered my sexuality," he said.

Truly ahead of his time in terms of social commentary, José naturally made his mark in haute couture and fine arts — passions they both share in more ways than one.

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"We love the same things, we love the same kind of clothes. I'm wearing Betty's clothes," José said, in head-to-toe Balmain, accessorized with Van Cleef jewelry.

"Betty let me be myself," he added, tenderly.

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Betty, dressed in classic Chanel, donning diamonds for days, looked on smiling as her husband recounted their love story.

"The love is so big between the two of us. Betty for me is a mother, a sister, a wife, everything," he said. "The most important three people I have in my life are Betty, my son, and my granddaughter."

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I'm a diamond heiress, my husband found out he was 35 years younger at the altar (2024)

FAQs

Is José Castelo Branco married? ›

Did Lady Betty Grafstein pass away? ›

“I'm alive” After José Castelo Branco reduced the constant sharing of images of Betty Grafstein, rumors began to circulate that the celebrity had died. However, this does not correspond to the truth.

What has happened to Betty Grafstein? ›

They were frequently seen at high-profile events, with Castelo Branco pushing Grafstein in a wheelchair while sporting designer stilettos. Grafstein is currently recovering in a New York hospital and Castelo Branco remains in Portugal fighting a travel ban, Vanity Fair reported.

Who is José Castelo Branco's son? ›

What did Castelo Branco do? ›

Castelo Branco became one of the leaders of the 1964 Brazilian coup d'état that overthrew Goulart and ended the Fourth Brazilian Republic. On April 11, Congress chose him to serve out the remainder of Goulart's term and he took the oath of office on April 15, 1964.

What is Castelo Branco's last name? ›

Castelo Branco (full name: Humberto de Alencar Castelo Branco) was the first president of Brazil's military dictatorship, a leader of the 1964 military coup against the democratically elected João Goulart (1961-1964), and a career military officer.

Who was Lady Betty? ›

Lady Betty was famous as a cruel hangwoman who worked in Roscommon Jail in the eighteenth century. According to Sir William Wilde, she drew a sketch of each of her victims on the walls of her dwelling with a burnt stick.

Who are Betty and Jose? ›

The Twisted True Love Story Of Lady Betty Grafstein And José Castelo Branco. A 95-year-old diamond heiress and a much younger genderfluid reality star got famous on TikTok for their epic feel-good romance.

What is Betty Grafstein famous for? ›

Lady Betty Grafstein is known for 1 Block (2020), Família Superstar (2007) and HermanSIC (2000).

Who did Betty leave her fortune to? ›

Sources reportedly told The Daily Star that those closest to White were remembered in her will, but most of her estate otherwise went to charities.

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Now living in Wiltshire with film producer husband, Paul Toogood, she has just released her first solo single in 29 years, Get Me to the Weekend. An album follows this summer. The Boo is back.

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Betty survived her husband by six years, dying on March 21, 1760, in Concord, Massachusetts, aged 77.

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Who is Betty Grafstein's husband? ›

Who is José Castelo Branco? ›

José Castelo Branco was born on December 8, 1962 in Tete, Mozambique, Portugal [now Mozambique]. He is an actor, known for Al Fachada (2013), Trio Maravilha (2006) and 1 Block (2020). He has been married to Lady Betty Grafstein since November 26, 1996. He was previously married to Maria Arlene.

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The Twisted True Love Story of Lady Betty Grafstein and José Castelo Branco. A 95-year-old diamond heiress and a much younger genderfluid reality star got famous on TikTok for their epic feel-good romance.

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